by Teresa Greenleaf Sometimes after the first date, the guy disappears and does not get in touch with you for a couple of days. What to do in such a situation? Let’s figure it out together!
#1. Don’t be nervous
The most important thing in this situation is to take care of your emotional balance. You can be sure that if you met your destiny, then this person will not go anywhere. Try not to think far ahead and live in the present.
#2. Don’t be depressed
We suggest trying one exercise. Our beliefs greatly influence our feelings. For example, a girl thinks that she will not meet her love and will live alone, and is sad because of this. Negative belief = negative feelings.
How can you apply this exercise in a situation when he doesn’t call? Think about how you feel about this situation. Do you blame yourself? Do you think you are not pretty enough? Everybody has a boyfriend but not you! If you have such negative beliefs, then it is worth doing psychological work. All negative beliefs need to be replaced with positive ones.
#3. Don’t jump to conclusions
New acquaintances are always a risk. So do not try to immediately reveal all your feelings or put an end to the person at the first misunderstanding.
#4. Think about yourself
Your reaction to a guy’s behavior is not what he thinks of you, but what you think of yourself. You are stuck in your negative beliefs. As soon as such a thought appears in your head, repeat: “I deserve better. Some men will see it.” Repeat this as many times as necessary.
#5. Fill your thoughts with other things
The temptation to succumb to sadness and self-pity is great. Instead of focusing on the negative (he didn’t call), redirect your attention to something positive. Meeting up with friends, doing an interesting project, or doing yoga – distraction is extremely effective.
#6. Start looking for another guy
If the guy doesn’t call the next day, give him a week. If at this time he still does not appear, cross him off the list and move on. Think of it this way: if you were hungry and found a closed restaurant, you would go looking for another restaurant, right? You wouldn’t focus on the fact that the first restaurant was closed.
Likewise, remember that there are many men and that your best chance of finding good is to remain positive and hopeful. Good luck and stay tuned for our new posts!
