by Jessie Brewin And why on Earth do you need that? Having warm feelings for someone is wonderful – it means you are alive!
Moreover, feelings are not something you can control, but, of course, you can try. Life is not a simple thing, and there are cases when you really need to control yourself in terms of letting your feelings out. So, that’s what we bring up today. Learn why you need to hide/get rid of your feelings sometimes and how to do that.
When you should control your feelings
- When your feelings aren’t mutual.
Sometimes people don’t feel the same. C’est la vie.
In this case, the best thing you can do is to try to forget this person. But how to lose feelings for someone? If only it was that easy!
- In case you are a fickle lover – you fall in love at first sight and fall out of love at the second.
If you know yourself quite well and don’t want to waste yourself on every one who comes along.
- You just broke up.
It’s obvious you can get rid of your feelings right away. But you should.
- If you like them too much.
You always go hard and don’t want your feelings to make your life complicated. You become too nervous, too distracted, and can’t “function properly”. Even if your feelings are mutual, there is a point in controlling yourself.
Now, it’s time to learn how to stop having feelings for people who don’t deserve them.
How to get rid of feelings for someone
We collected 5 tips on how to stop having feelings for someone. They are very basic. If they don’t help, it’s better to discuss the issue with your psychiatrist.
1. Decide for yourself that you NEED to stop having feelings for this person
That is the first and most important step that determines the success of the whole’ operation’. It is necessary to reach the “point of no return”. A clear realization should come: you no longer want to suffer for a person who does not care.
2. Realize that this person is far from ideal
You have to force yourself to find the negative aspects of your relationship and unattractive traits of your partner. Sit down and think: was everything so perfect? You may find many flaws, bad memories, and moments of frustration and resentment.
3. Distract yourself with something interesting
Trying to forget the person for whom there are still feelings, many load themselves with routine work from early morning until late at night.
Living at work is not an option. There are a lot of more exciting things than work. For example, travel (to the nearest city or to South Africa), find a new hobby, do sports. If nothing else, there are a lot of bars outside.
Meet new people. It will help you take your mind off your sad feelings and forget the person you like. You may find that you are much more interested in your new friends and acquaintances than in the person for whom you have tender feelings.
4. Go on a date (after a breakup or if your feeling aren’t mutual)
Fight fire with fire. Go on a date with someone who likes you. It will help you feel better. And it doesn’t mean you should dive into a new relationship. Just go on a couple of dates. In a couple of days, you will find yourself thinking about entirely different stuff.
5. Be patient
It takes time to forget the person you like. Don’t be angry with yourself that you are not coping with your feelings quickly. Give yourself time.
Now, you know how to get out of your feelings for someone and are ready to move on. If you know more tricks that helped you or your friends to control your feelings, tell us in the comments below. Thank you!
