by Teresa Greenleaf Today we are going to talk about communication on dating sites. Puzzled how to show a girl that you are interested in her? Unable to write a matrimonial proposal message to a young man you like? Well, let’s figure it out together.
3 reasons that make people nervous
- Indian men and women have almost no direct communication experience with each other. This is one of the reasons why dating isn’t accepted, and mass marriages are widespread.
- To communicate with the man/woman requires confidence, experience, and cultural approval. In most sections of Indian society, cultural approval is out of the question, and in other cases often lacks confidence and experience.
- Parents strictly control the communication circle of their children and do not approve of empty communication. One day, they want their son or daughter to marry the right person.
Dating sites have virtually eliminated all these problems. On such a site, it is very easy to express interest in a message. One button and the message is sent.
Ideas for the first message on a dating site
You can use these templates to send a message or to call a potential partner.
Formal message
These examples were written from a man showing interest in the profile of a woman found on the matrimony site.
“Hello, Ranjana. I found your profile, and I think that we are compatible. I am 32, and I work in the IT sector in Delhi. I liked the fact that you believe in traditional Indian values and still do not mind accepting a modern lifestyle. Please view my profile and let me know if you are interested.”
“I am a 28-year-old mechanical engineer. I am from a middle-class family. I am in search of a woman with family values. I believe that your profile meets my expectations and will be happy if you can view my profile and answer me.”
Now take a look at a few messages written on behalf of the girl.
“Hello Raman! You have an interesting profile, and I would like to speak with you on the phone. I am an educated woman, engaged in my career. I live in Delhi. Email me if you are interested.”
“Hello! In the sea of profiles created by parents, your profile stands out. I also play the guitar and love music. I would be happy to speak with you to find even more matches. I will be glad to meet you.”
Informal message
It is not necessary to send purely official messages. If the profile description is in a humorous tone, you can make a message funnier.
“Registration on a dating site was not in my plans, but maybe I will be lucky, and you will be the One. Sending messages on marriage sites is more fun than playing Russian roulette! I bet that I’m lucky. Look at my profile and write if you are interested.”
“How is the weather in Delhi now? I am now very far from there, but your photo reminded me of the beautiful nature. I like the fact that you have a modern outlook on life, and you are focused on your professional career. Email me if you think we are made for each other.”
Indirect communication
These were examples of first-person messages. If the page is led by the parents of the bride/groom, then pay attention to the options described below.
On behalf of a parent to another parent
“Dear Madam, I found your daughter’s profile. I think she will suit my son. He works as a manager in Mumbai. I work as a senior manager, and my wife is a housewife. Can you see his profile and tell me about your impressions.”
From a brother to a parent or vice versa
“Dear Madam, I came across your daughter’s profile. We are looking for a couple for my brother, a 30-year-old investment banker in Mumbai. We come from this state. I am his older sister. Now I live with my husband and children in the neighborhood. Send me a message about what you think about it.“
From a brother to a brother
“Hello! Can you please visit my sister’s profile and say if you want to know her better. I am her older brother. My sister works as a consultant at KPMG in San Francisco. She is an extrovert, she has a modern outlook on life, but she dreams of a family and children. For additional information, please, look through the profile of my sister.“
Useful tips to start
To reply to a matrimonial interest message is not as complicated as it seems at a glance. Here you will find some tips on what you need to pay attention to before sending a new message to someone.
- Please review the profiles before carefully sending a message.
- A thorough study of the profile is important because this way you can identify common interests that you can name in the first message.
- Try to choose the right tone and style for the profile description. If you find out that the profile was created by a person interested in marriage and contains carefully thought-out information about the person’s personality, interests, and lifestyle, you can conclude that sending a stereotyped single-line message or message with grammar mistakes is doomed to failure.
- Make sure you know who is sitting on the other side of the screen. Do not send flirty messages to the parents of the potential bride/groom.
- If the profile seems too perfect, then try to find additional information before disclosing personal information.
- If you have received a negative response to your offer to talk or meet, just move on. Do not take it seriously, and do not ask for an explanation!
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